http://highability.org/28/being-a-perfectionist/ Creative, extra intelligent and intense, gifted/talented Tue, 01 May 2012 00:03:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 http://highability.org/28/being-a-perfectionist/comment-page-1/#comment-376 willow Mon, 17 Jan 2011 07:06:34 +0000 http://www.talentdevelop.com/highability/?p=28#comment-376 is it possible for your perfectionsim to scare people away? Like you try so hard for people to love you and in turn it scares them away? I feel like I have always tried very hard, and accomplished some things, but only wanted people to care. However, it seems the people that value me are the ones who see the financial and career success I can help them achieve...never anyone that likes me just because I am a person. is it possible for your perfectionsim to scare people away? Like you try so hard for people to love you and in turn it scares them away? I feel like I have always tried very hard, and accomplished some things, but only wanted people to care. However, it seems the people that value me are the ones who see the financial and career success I can help them achieve…never anyone that likes me just because I am a person.

]]> http://highability.org/28/being-a-perfectionist/comment-page-1/#comment-190 Belinda Seiger Thu, 04 Mar 2010 21:28:06 +0000 http://www.talentdevelop.com/highability/?p=28#comment-190 I am a psychotherapist who works primarily with gifted and talented adults including those who don't realize that what sets them apart from others is often their gifts/talents and potential. Many such adults grow up feeling different in a negative way and often feel embarrassed by their own ambitions. Striving for perfection does not seem to capture fully the experience of the "rage to achieve" and how that affects a gifted person's sense of themselves on a daily basis. When this "rage to achieve" is satisfied, the individual can be immersed and fulfilled by the work itself, and the striving for perfection is not as imperative. I am a psychotherapist who works primarily with gifted and talented adults including those who don’t realize that what sets them apart from others is often their gifts/talents and potential. Many such adults grow up feeling different in a negative way and often feel embarrassed by their own ambitions. Striving for perfection does not seem to capture fully the experience of the “rage to achieve” and how that affects a gifted person’s sense of themselves on a daily basis. When this “rage to achieve” is satisfied, the individual can be immersed and fulfilled by the work itself, and the striving for perfection is not as imperative.

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