One of the qualities that makes many performers such as actors and musicians, even some life coaches, so engaging is their intensity.
The photo is Idris Elba and Jessica Chastain in Molly’s Game (2017), from my post Performers and Sensitivity, Introversion and Excitabilities.
Like a number of other artists, both of these emotionally dynamic and intense actors have described themselves as shy.
Another example of an intense actor is Russell Crowe.
Jodie Foster once commented about him, “He’s terribly talented and an incredibly charming guy, but I think when he gets nervous he gets incredibly serious.
“He’s a very light, funny guy. He has a little leprechaun side to him. He has that glacier intensity. He is truly intense.”
[From post What do you do with your intensity?]
Psychotherapist Belinda Seiger comments about intensity:
“People have different tolerance levels for intense people and there are many who find them annoying, ‘know-it-alls,’ or ‘just too much.’
“Others fully enjoy the experience of such enthusiastic, creative and emotional people and seek them out as reflection of themselves.”
She comments more about intensity and excitability in her article Mindful Intensity. Here is an excerpt:
If you are a person who has heard statements like, “you’re just too much,” “you think too much,” or “you’re too sensitive,” your whole life, this article is for you.
Perhaps you perceived such comments as indicators that something was wrong with you, or you weren’t even sure why people were saying these things to you.
Well, take heart, you are not alone!
It was only recently, that I myself, a therapist specializing in working with gifted, creative and highly capable people had a humorous and enlightening experience of my own.
I was having breakfast with a relatively new friend who is the mother of a highly gifted child; she herself obviously has a great mind.
She is the kind of person who, when presented with a question or problem to solve, will embark upon finding an answer with immense gusto and fervor, generating such a multitude of possible solutions and resources within a 24 hour period, that it appears that she has been thinking about the issue over many months.
She is incredibly knowledgeable and synthesizes immense amounts and types of information very rapidly.
During our conversation, I reflected on these abilities to her and described her as an “intense” person, and she was surprised.
I was surprised that she was surprised, since it seemed so obvious to me.
We were with another friend who has known me for about fifteen years and, much to my surprise, he said to me, “you know, you’re very intense too…
Developing greater control of the “volume of intensity” may lead to more relaxed or responsive interactions with friends, family and colleagues.
Continued in article Mindful Intensity, by Belinda Seiger.
Living With Intensity: Understanding the Sensitivity, Excitability, and the Emotional Development of Gifted Children, Adolescents, and Adults – by Susan Daniels and Michael M. Piechowski, Editors.
“Gifted children and adults are often misunderstood.
“Their excitement is viewed as excessive, their high energy as hyperactivity, their persistence as nagging, their imagination as not paying attention, their passion as being disruptive, their strong emotions and sensitivity as immaturity, their creativity and self-directedness as oppositional.
“This resource describes these overexcitabilities and strategies for dealing with children and adults who are experiencing them, and provides essential information about Dabrowski s Theory of Positive Disintegration.
“Learn practical methods for nurturing sensitivity, intensity, perfectionism, and much more.” [Amazon summary]
by Paula Prober.
‘Do you long to drive a Ferrari at top speed on the open road, but find yourself always stuck on the freeway during rush hour?
“Do you wonder how you can feel like “not enough” and “too much” at the same time?’ [From Amazon summary.]
One of her articles: How Can I Be Authentic When I Overwhelm Everyone?
Creative People Shouldn’t ‘Tone It Down’ By Cynthia Morris
Excitabilities and Gifted People – an intro by Susan Daniels