Tina Harlow: Do you ever encounter parents that don’t even know that they’re gifted?
Paula Prober: Definitely…
Sometimes discovering their child is gifted is the first time that [a parent] has even thought about it.
Here is more from the transcript of this conversation between Tina Harlow and Paula Prober, both counselors of gifted children and families:
Tina Harlow: Of course many of the parents are gifted themselves and I just wondered if you had kind of one word of advice or something that might be helpful to parents of gifted kids and we know that gifted kids have such a wide range of characteristics but if you had one word of advice is there something that you could say?
Paula Prober: Yes – I think when I see parents for consultations around their kids what I notice is the parents are often gifted themselves and I think that if…a parent understands him- or her self then that’s really helpful for their child.
In other words, if they look at what their giftedness is – if they have any issues from their own childhood that haven’t been addressed; if they notice their child is triggering something in them, [such as] they’re extra angry at their child over and over again and don’t know why…
If the parent really starts to examine themselves then then that’s really a great gift to the child.
And so…they sometimes come to me for the child that’s the problem, but the child often doesn’t need counseling, the parent does – or the parent needs more information about themselves.
See more quotes by Prober in my article How to Relieve Stress and Anxiety When You’re Highly Sensitive.
The photo at top is also used in my article Parenting gifted kids is not for sissies.
Also see programs, articles and other resources by:
Sharon M. Barnes, MSSW, LCSW, Therapist For Sensitive And Gifted.